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Gossip – What Does the Bible Say?

I was looking up gossip to make sure what I thought about it is true. And it is. Here’s the definition of gossiping.

gos·sip

noun

  1. casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true.

“he became the subject of much local gossip”

verb

  1. engage in gossip.

“they would start gossiping about her as soon as she left”

 Here are some Biblical principles regarding it:

Proverbs 16:28 New American Standard Bible 28 A perverse man spreads strife, And a slanderer separates intimate friends.

Proverbs 20:19 He who goes about as a slanderer reveals secrets, Therefore do not associate with a gossip.

Romans 1:29 being filled with all unrighteousness, wickedness, greed, evil; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, malice; they are gossips,

2 Corinthians 12:20 For I am afraid that perhaps when I come I may find you to be not what I wish and may be found by you to be not what you wish; that perhaps there will be strife, jealousy, angry tempers, disputes, slanders, gossip, arrogance, disturbances;

1 Timothy 3:11 Women must likewise be dignified, not malicious gossips, but temperate, faithful in all things.

1 Timothy 5:13 At the same time they also learn to be idle, as they go around from house to house; and not merely idle, but also gossips and busybodies, talking about things not proper to mention.

2 Timothy 3:3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,

Titus 2:3 Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, (they should be) teaching what is good,

A wise lady I know said anything said about someone while that person is not there could be considered gossip. Even true things. The only thing we should be saying would be things like “She is a kind person/he is a nice man.” Anytime you add “but” to the sentence, you are stepping over the gossip/slander line.

It goes back to when we were children and our mothers’ would say, if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

I think this includes talking about all people, including politicians. I think news reporters are the worst gossips. If you weren’t there, in the room when something happened, don’t spread it as truth. Even if you were, make sure you preface it by saying “it appeared to me that…”

Sadly, it is difficult to control ourselves on social media. Suddenly, all our barriers and social walls and couth(ness) fly out the windows. But it is even worse to be cruel there. It is like a hit and run driver; someone who just runs over the guy on the bike and drives off without a care, except it is with words. You have tons of people standing around watching and they become part of it because they don’t stop you, and it spreads and spreads.

I see slander and libel online all the time, and it is sad, depressing, and tedious. Taking peoples’ words out of context is even worse. It is lying, and liars are the worst sort of human being. They are right up there with murderers because they kill a person’s good name with lies and innuendo.  In this age of “tolerance” could we please be tolerant? We are trying to stop people from bullying, and then we bully. How is that even acceptable?

We are allowed to tell information about a person if they’ve said we could, such as “so and so is sick, and would like prayer” but if “so and so” didn’t ask you to do this, do not do it. It is private information unless you’ve been given leave to speak. Additionally, do not expound and give your opinion about the person’s situation. Do not say, I didn’t think you’d mind.

God calls Christians to act in love, kindness, peacefulness, etc. When you tell tales about someone, you just stepped into a bad place.

Please understand something: I struggle with this. I am a person who loves to talk. I have to clamp my mouth shut too many times. Don’t be like me. Practice loving speech. Practice loving thoughts. The term WWJD (what would Jesus do?) is just as appropriate now as it was back in the day. If Jesus loves people, even the tax collectors, who are we to be hateful to anyone? This is especially true if you claim to be a Christian person.

Thank you for reading my thoughts and opinions. Please feel free to forward this. EAB

 

 

1 thought on “Gossip – What Does the Bible Say?”

  1. Very well said! Yeah, Mom used to say “If you can’t say something nice about (or to) a person, then don’t say anything at all.” Moms are almost always right 😉

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